Lisa gasped, there was blood everywhere, she struggled for breath as the reailty of what had just happened hit her. The knife, the blood, bile rose in her throat,the dizzyness taking over. Life hadn't always been like this.
Simon was a lawyer,tall, good looking but didn't he know it! women fell at his feet, hung on every word. Arrogant was what Lisa thought the first time she had met him. Stuiped women, he wasn't all that. Blonde haired, blue eyed good looking? but what he really had going for him was he was the bosses son. On her first day in the office he introduced himself, by the end of the day Lisa had become one of stupid women she despised. The following morning she found herself putting on make-up and doing her hair in hope of bumping into him. The feeling in her stomach when he didn't turn up surprised even her.
Everyday trying to get noticed through the army of women who swarmed round him was to much like hard work. " Sod it" Lisa thought " Never gonna happen" That was until the firm won a landmark case, and the boss took everyone out. Champagne flowing, everything changed, as he lent in to kiss her, the rest was history.
Three years later they married in spectacular style at the poshest manor house in the country. Lisa had never seen such wealth. They moved into a beautiful eight bedroom house not long after. Lisa became a woman of leisure, beauty salon, gym, shopping about summed up most days for her now.That's when it all started. The first time it happens you never forget.
The punch came out of the blue. No warning, no time to run. A silly row about how much money she had spent on a handbag had resulted in a black eye and thick lip. Oh the promise that this would never happen again, the apologies all meaningless because it did happen again and again. The sense of shame and not being able to talk to anyone about what was happening was killing her. No one would believe such a thing.
The beatings continued for years. The injury's became more sever. Lying to family and friends. "I walked in to a door" "I slipped down the stairs" all classic lines and lies. "When will this ever stop?" Lisa thought. If only people knew the truth. Walking on eggshells became a daily routine. Trying to be positive that today things might change. To the world a lovely young couple who had so much going for them. But behind closed doors the monster lived.
Lisa let out a scream, she hadn't meant to stab Simon, just like she didn't mean to punch him that very first time she had lost her temper over a handbag. Or the time he arrived late home from work or any other time for that matter. As Simon slipped away she knew somehow people were going to believe her now.
Monday, July 6, 2009
The “doll house” to revenge or to love?
One night, from his playing house, she saw hooligans attacked her parents and brother. Her father was killed by a shot in a head. Her mother was raped by shameless hooligan and killed. Her brother was killed by shots in his heart. She was crying inside her big doll house. She saw everything and heard everything. The sounds of laughter of the hooligans. After that incident, she's never a child again. The only thing she has was her doll, her companion on he days of nightmare.
The only thing on his mind was the incident.. The flash scenes of the incident. The sounds of the gun reverberate in her ears. The laughter of the hooligans slowly crashing and irritating her heart. The word “revenge” marked her heart with anger. Everyday the face of the hooligans got clearer and clearer. The sounds of the gun got louder and louder. She will grow up with the images of violence. After a years, she became a businesswoman... a powerful businesswoman that hardened by time.
Her heart became “stone”. She worked everyday to forget what happened, until she met a guy. She fell in love with the guy. One day the guy asked her to marry him. The girl said “yes” and they visit the house of her future husband. She was shocked on what she saw. The nightmare of the past came back, the memories of the incident shocked again her heart. She remembered everything when she was on her doll house. And now the day she's been waiting for arrived. She saw the hooligans who killed her loved ones! But the hooligans she's talking about was the father of her future husband, the guy that teach her how to love again… What will she choose? To revenge or to love the guy forever? THE END
“I'm sorry, I don't know.” I love you too
Before her 18th birthday, the girl wished to her boy friend a diamond ring. Her boyfriend promised that she will buy a ring. The girl was very happy. She went to salon to have some make-over to look beautiful on her birthday. She bought make-ups, new clothes and new shoes. The night she's been waiting for arrived. She look elegant, gorgeous. Everybody were focused to her. The party started when her boyfriend arrived with a doll.. The girl get mad at her boyfriend. She thought the she will give her a ring instead of a doll, she threw the doll. The guy ran as fast as he could to save the doll.
But a car hit him…he died in hospital after a few hours. The girl felt very sorry, she cried every minute when she remember everything. In the burial the girl cried, she hugged the doll tightly. She was shocked when the doll talked and said “ Happy birthday baby, will you marry me? get the ring on the doll's pocket hope you like it. I LOVE YOU”. The girl cried so much. The girl went outside and shouted “I'm sorry baby! I don't know I love you too!”
The “galactic princess” power or love?
Garnet is a precious stone. Like princess Garnet Lonorra of Andromeda palace. A beautiful and down to earth princess. Soon, she will become the queen of their galaxy. She practice everyday how to fight, study everyday to become a certified queen. But she cant fall in love, her privileged to become queen will vanish. That's a sacred rule of andromeda bible.
One day, while playing in the universe she saw a destroyed spaceship and a dying human. Princess Garnet fell in love with the guy while nursing him back to life. Princess garnet was in loved with the guy. They planned to leave the palace, but the present queen stopped her. The princess don't know what she'll going to do because she will loose her privilege to become a queen that's she's been waiting for. And if they continue their relationship they will turn into a stars. A spell that no one can break. But they love each other. If you see two shining stars in the sky one night. You know what decision princess Garnet Lonorra made. But the question is what will she choose?
“I like you too” but its too late
The guy loves the girl working on a studio shop. Everyday the guy bought a cd just to see the girl of her life. He felt very happy everytime the girl smiles at him. The girl wants the guy also but she's waiting for the first move. She secretly wave her hair just to look beautiful to the guy. After 2 weeks, the girl was lonely because the guy were not visited for almost 10 days, she don't know what happened. One night she planned to go to the guys house. When she was there, she was shocked because the guy was dead due to brain cancer. She was crying all night long. The mother of the guy took the girl on the guy's room. She cried when she saw all the cd's unopened because she kept her all love letter inside the cd because she also love the guy. But its late…too late for them.
The “rebel” all she need is love
She's hot, sexy, gorgeous, naughty and awesome- rich a "perfect package for guys". She can buy all she wants, shopping all over the world-travel. But she had a bad attitude. She thinks that she holds the life of the poor, She maltreated them. A seducer...also a victim, a good friend…also a traitor. But deep inside she's a simple kind of person. A person that wants to be love and to love. She's alone, her family left her when she was a child. No one treat her as a person- a woman. She's alone, inside her heart there's a room, inside the room she's locked, the true her. There's a wall that keeps away from her true friends. The wall become thicker and thicker by lonesome and anger. she's afraid to show her true self. No one can't understand her feeling. All she wants is a “key” a key that will unlocked her from her own nightmare, her own prison inside her heart. Do you know what kind of key is that?..LOVE
Our life is like a fairy tale…sometimes were sad but yet, when the savior of our life come, we feel very happy and comfortable, but we must always remember that in a fairy tale there's also a sad ending. “We must remember that love is just between I love you and goodbye, that love can destroy and build ones life.” “Don't play fire to a person that can play to you better”
The only thing on his mind was the incident.. The flash scenes of the incident. The sounds of the gun reverberate in her ears. The laughter of the hooligans slowly crashing and irritating her heart. The word “revenge” marked her heart with anger. Everyday the face of the hooligans got clearer and clearer. The sounds of the gun got louder and louder. She will grow up with the images of violence. After a years, she became a businesswoman... a powerful businesswoman that hardened by time.
Her heart became “stone”. She worked everyday to forget what happened, until she met a guy. She fell in love with the guy. One day the guy asked her to marry him. The girl said “yes” and they visit the house of her future husband. She was shocked on what she saw. The nightmare of the past came back, the memories of the incident shocked again her heart. She remembered everything when she was on her doll house. And now the day she's been waiting for arrived. She saw the hooligans who killed her loved ones! But the hooligans she's talking about was the father of her future husband, the guy that teach her how to love again… What will she choose? To revenge or to love the guy forever? THE END
“I'm sorry, I don't know.” I love you too
Before her 18th birthday, the girl wished to her boy friend a diamond ring. Her boyfriend promised that she will buy a ring. The girl was very happy. She went to salon to have some make-over to look beautiful on her birthday. She bought make-ups, new clothes and new shoes. The night she's been waiting for arrived. She look elegant, gorgeous. Everybody were focused to her. The party started when her boyfriend arrived with a doll.. The girl get mad at her boyfriend. She thought the she will give her a ring instead of a doll, she threw the doll. The guy ran as fast as he could to save the doll.
But a car hit him…he died in hospital after a few hours. The girl felt very sorry, she cried every minute when she remember everything. In the burial the girl cried, she hugged the doll tightly. She was shocked when the doll talked and said “ Happy birthday baby, will you marry me? get the ring on the doll's pocket hope you like it. I LOVE YOU”. The girl cried so much. The girl went outside and shouted “I'm sorry baby! I don't know I love you too!”
The “galactic princess” power or love?
Garnet is a precious stone. Like princess Garnet Lonorra of Andromeda palace. A beautiful and down to earth princess. Soon, she will become the queen of their galaxy. She practice everyday how to fight, study everyday to become a certified queen. But she cant fall in love, her privileged to become queen will vanish. That's a sacred rule of andromeda bible.
One day, while playing in the universe she saw a destroyed spaceship and a dying human. Princess Garnet fell in love with the guy while nursing him back to life. Princess garnet was in loved with the guy. They planned to leave the palace, but the present queen stopped her. The princess don't know what she'll going to do because she will loose her privilege to become a queen that's she's been waiting for. And if they continue their relationship they will turn into a stars. A spell that no one can break. But they love each other. If you see two shining stars in the sky one night. You know what decision princess Garnet Lonorra made. But the question is what will she choose?
“I like you too” but its too late
The guy loves the girl working on a studio shop. Everyday the guy bought a cd just to see the girl of her life. He felt very happy everytime the girl smiles at him. The girl wants the guy also but she's waiting for the first move. She secretly wave her hair just to look beautiful to the guy. After 2 weeks, the girl was lonely because the guy were not visited for almost 10 days, she don't know what happened. One night she planned to go to the guys house. When she was there, she was shocked because the guy was dead due to brain cancer. She was crying all night long. The mother of the guy took the girl on the guy's room. She cried when she saw all the cd's unopened because she kept her all love letter inside the cd because she also love the guy. But its late…too late for them.
The “rebel” all she need is love
She's hot, sexy, gorgeous, naughty and awesome- rich a "perfect package for guys". She can buy all she wants, shopping all over the world-travel. But she had a bad attitude. She thinks that she holds the life of the poor, She maltreated them. A seducer...also a victim, a good friend…also a traitor. But deep inside she's a simple kind of person. A person that wants to be love and to love. She's alone, her family left her when she was a child. No one treat her as a person- a woman. She's alone, inside her heart there's a room, inside the room she's locked, the true her. There's a wall that keeps away from her true friends. The wall become thicker and thicker by lonesome and anger. she's afraid to show her true self. No one can't understand her feeling. All she wants is a “key” a key that will unlocked her from her own nightmare, her own prison inside her heart. Do you know what kind of key is that?..LOVE
Our life is like a fairy tale…sometimes were sad but yet, when the savior of our life come, we feel very happy and comfortable, but we must always remember that in a fairy tale there's also a sad ending. “We must remember that love is just between I love you and goodbye, that love can destroy and build ones life.” “Don't play fire to a person that can play to you better”
Friday, July 3, 2009
Are you in Denial
Dating is not always easy and finding an interesting person to even consider dating is often challenging enough as it is. So when we do find someone interesting enough, we often hold on to them, with the hope that the connection will grow into something special.
The question you need to ask yourself however, is: How special is the connection between you and this “interesting” person?
As women, when we meet someone we really like, we often become infatuated quickly and without intention, create this illusion that leads us to disappointment and injured emotions that we do not deserve.
Have you met someone you feel drawn to romantically and want things to head to the next stage, but just cannot seem to get there? If so, welcome to a common situation many of us women find ourselves in. Is this new man in your life really worth your time and patience, or are you just in denial about how special the connection between you really is? It is important for you to be observant and pay attention to whether or not you are making excuses for him when he does not put in the effort you would like him to.
Making excuses for someone is something very common that people do, especially women. When we like a man enough, we convince ourselves that he is worth our time by making excuses for his lazy and inconsiderate behavior. Deep down however, you already know whether he is truly crazy about you too, or not.
Here are some signs of a man who truly does want you:
1. He calls you and gets in touch with you (phone, e-mail, etc) as often as he can.
2. Calls you when he says he will
3. Pays attention to what you like (example: types of movies, flowers, food, music, so on) and then invests efforts in making sure he can provide you with it. So for example, if he knows Italian is your favorite food, he will try to find a nice Italian restaurant to take you to, because he wants to impress you and make you happy.
4. He expresses his feelings to you and lets you know how much he likes you.
5. He does not mind doing most of the chasing
Now, here are some signs of a man who is not that interested in you:
1. He takes his time to get in touch with you and does not seem very excited to talk to you again.
2. Tells you he will call you, and then breaks that promise.
3. Leaves you wondering about how he really feels about you. Not being emotionally expressive enough.
4. Does not invest much effort in trying to impress you or set up nice dates.
5. He seems relaxed and not concerned with chasing you all that much- leaving a lot of room for you to look for him.
If you find yourself making excuses to any of the signs above that point to him not being very interested in you, you are not alone. You obviously like this man a lot and like him enough at this time to feel he worth making excuses for, but…are you really happy?
Sure, there are exceptions where we should give people the benefit of the doubt, but there is a difference between a mistake we can of course excuse and forgive and man who simply does not treat you well enough.
Yes, we are living in modern times where women play strong roles in the career and work field and are not afraid to take charge and be aggressive, including in the romance department. If we see a man we want, most of us are not old fashioned enough to just wait around. We are ready to take charge and flirt, e-mail and call- if it means starting up a relationship with a man we want. While this is great and we should feel strong and confident enough about ourselves to do this, we also should not forget how men are programmed by nature. Do not rob a man of the fun he has in chasing after a woman he really longs for. As fun as it may be for you to be the aggressive one, the truth is, if you spend too much time being aggressive and getting in touch with him all the time, you are not giving him or yourself the chance to really find out how much he wants you. Do not be afraid to lie back sometimes and see just how much effort he feels you are worth. If he really wants to get to know you and be with you romantically, then he will not miss his chance to call you, e-mail you, or make the time to take you out.
So be honest with yourself and do not make excuses, no matter how much you like him. After all, you want to be with someone who wants you just as bad and shows it- not someone you have to run after and wonder about.
One Important Note: Avoid the “Busy Excuse”
Do not make the busy excuse for him. Yes, people get busy, but if you are not too busy to think about him, then he is not too busy to think about you either. If you really are on his mind, he will make the time, if only a moment, to let you know he was thinking about (whether through a phone call, text message or e-mail.).
Sometimes a person can have a crazy day and this is okay, but if it happens too often, then it has nothing to do with him being busy- it has to do with him being lazy, and you are worth more than that!
The question you need to ask yourself however, is: How special is the connection between you and this “interesting” person?
As women, when we meet someone we really like, we often become infatuated quickly and without intention, create this illusion that leads us to disappointment and injured emotions that we do not deserve.
Have you met someone you feel drawn to romantically and want things to head to the next stage, but just cannot seem to get there? If so, welcome to a common situation many of us women find ourselves in. Is this new man in your life really worth your time and patience, or are you just in denial about how special the connection between you really is? It is important for you to be observant and pay attention to whether or not you are making excuses for him when he does not put in the effort you would like him to.
Making excuses for someone is something very common that people do, especially women. When we like a man enough, we convince ourselves that he is worth our time by making excuses for his lazy and inconsiderate behavior. Deep down however, you already know whether he is truly crazy about you too, or not.
Here are some signs of a man who truly does want you:
1. He calls you and gets in touch with you (phone, e-mail, etc) as often as he can.
2. Calls you when he says he will
3. Pays attention to what you like (example: types of movies, flowers, food, music, so on) and then invests efforts in making sure he can provide you with it. So for example, if he knows Italian is your favorite food, he will try to find a nice Italian restaurant to take you to, because he wants to impress you and make you happy.
4. He expresses his feelings to you and lets you know how much he likes you.
5. He does not mind doing most of the chasing
Now, here are some signs of a man who is not that interested in you:
1. He takes his time to get in touch with you and does not seem very excited to talk to you again.
2. Tells you he will call you, and then breaks that promise.
3. Leaves you wondering about how he really feels about you. Not being emotionally expressive enough.
4. Does not invest much effort in trying to impress you or set up nice dates.
5. He seems relaxed and not concerned with chasing you all that much- leaving a lot of room for you to look for him.
If you find yourself making excuses to any of the signs above that point to him not being very interested in you, you are not alone. You obviously like this man a lot and like him enough at this time to feel he worth making excuses for, but…are you really happy?
Sure, there are exceptions where we should give people the benefit of the doubt, but there is a difference between a mistake we can of course excuse and forgive and man who simply does not treat you well enough.
Yes, we are living in modern times where women play strong roles in the career and work field and are not afraid to take charge and be aggressive, including in the romance department. If we see a man we want, most of us are not old fashioned enough to just wait around. We are ready to take charge and flirt, e-mail and call- if it means starting up a relationship with a man we want. While this is great and we should feel strong and confident enough about ourselves to do this, we also should not forget how men are programmed by nature. Do not rob a man of the fun he has in chasing after a woman he really longs for. As fun as it may be for you to be the aggressive one, the truth is, if you spend too much time being aggressive and getting in touch with him all the time, you are not giving him or yourself the chance to really find out how much he wants you. Do not be afraid to lie back sometimes and see just how much effort he feels you are worth. If he really wants to get to know you and be with you romantically, then he will not miss his chance to call you, e-mail you, or make the time to take you out.
So be honest with yourself and do not make excuses, no matter how much you like him. After all, you want to be with someone who wants you just as bad and shows it- not someone you have to run after and wonder about.
One Important Note: Avoid the “Busy Excuse”
Do not make the busy excuse for him. Yes, people get busy, but if you are not too busy to think about him, then he is not too busy to think about you either. If you really are on his mind, he will make the time, if only a moment, to let you know he was thinking about (whether through a phone call, text message or e-mail.).
Sometimes a person can have a crazy day and this is okay, but if it happens too often, then it has nothing to do with him being busy- it has to do with him being lazy, and you are worth more than that!
Fool-Proof Way to Getting Back Your Life After A breakup
When breakups happen, you are throw into a position where you feel like your whole world was turned upside down. Whenever there as a big change in our lives, we lose our sense of direction and can lead to feeling lost and hopeless. Most of the time, breakups lead us to feeling depressed and confused.
The realty of the situation is that this feeling of sadness or emptiness doesn't have to last long. What's more surprising is that you still have a good chance that you can patch up your relationship and stop your break up. This can happen even though you might be the only one who's interested in working it out.
To start, we need to examine the first stage of the breakup.Shortly, we will ba visiting helpful strategies on how toe save you relationship.
Staying Busy
Right now you may be wondering what to do? Although it may seem impossible to do. You need to take your mind off your ex and on to something else. Its the perfect time to try out something new or get yourself to expand worldly experiences.
You should seize the day and try something new. You can try going on a road trip, join a gym, take a cooking class or whatever you like. There are no rules. You just have to try something for yourself. Another good tip is to take a friend along with you. He/or she will help you vent your emotions and share in the experience of trying something new.
By allowing yourself to try new things, you will be able to clear you mind and keep it occupied while you are enjoying some new experiences. Secondly, it will show that you are getting along just fine without your ex in your life. This can help make you more attractive in the eyes of your ex. It's human nature to want what you can't have.
Pump It Up
Initially you might have the urge not to do anything and hide away in your room. The problem with staying home and not doing anything is that you might end up making that a habit. You body was made too move and getting some exercise will help your body and brain release endorphins. The release of endorphins will help boost your mood.
Working out and getting some physical training will help you in two ways.One of the main advantages is that you will be getting in shape.In addition, your spirits and self esteem will be boosted.You will have more confidence when you start getting back in the dating game.
Venting Your Feelings
The next step you should be doing is finding your support group. Your support group will help you release your emotional pain and help you sort out what exactly happened. They can help brighten your day and help you get you back on your feet. Being able to share you feelings is so monumental to your healing from your breakup.
In addition, you will be able to pinpoint your past mistake and learn how to deal with them in the future. It will even help if you end up getting back with your ex.
Win Your Ex Back
At first, most people would try to convince their ex that they made the biggest mistake of their life. They try to make their ex regret the break up. This is further from the truth and will not work.
Now, you have to NOT do what you think is the right thing to do. These are common mistake people make when they try to get back their ex.
Many of tips on how to get your ex back are counter-intuitive. Surprisingly, that is the reason why they work so well.
The realty of the situation is that this feeling of sadness or emptiness doesn't have to last long. What's more surprising is that you still have a good chance that you can patch up your relationship and stop your break up. This can happen even though you might be the only one who's interested in working it out.
To start, we need to examine the first stage of the breakup.Shortly, we will ba visiting helpful strategies on how toe save you relationship.
Staying Busy
Right now you may be wondering what to do? Although it may seem impossible to do. You need to take your mind off your ex and on to something else. Its the perfect time to try out something new or get yourself to expand worldly experiences.
You should seize the day and try something new. You can try going on a road trip, join a gym, take a cooking class or whatever you like. There are no rules. You just have to try something for yourself. Another good tip is to take a friend along with you. He/or she will help you vent your emotions and share in the experience of trying something new.
By allowing yourself to try new things, you will be able to clear you mind and keep it occupied while you are enjoying some new experiences. Secondly, it will show that you are getting along just fine without your ex in your life. This can help make you more attractive in the eyes of your ex. It's human nature to want what you can't have.
Pump It Up
Initially you might have the urge not to do anything and hide away in your room. The problem with staying home and not doing anything is that you might end up making that a habit. You body was made too move and getting some exercise will help your body and brain release endorphins. The release of endorphins will help boost your mood.
Working out and getting some physical training will help you in two ways.One of the main advantages is that you will be getting in shape.In addition, your spirits and self esteem will be boosted.You will have more confidence when you start getting back in the dating game.
Venting Your Feelings
The next step you should be doing is finding your support group. Your support group will help you release your emotional pain and help you sort out what exactly happened. They can help brighten your day and help you get you back on your feet. Being able to share you feelings is so monumental to your healing from your breakup.
In addition, you will be able to pinpoint your past mistake and learn how to deal with them in the future. It will even help if you end up getting back with your ex.
Win Your Ex Back
At first, most people would try to convince their ex that they made the biggest mistake of their life. They try to make their ex regret the break up. This is further from the truth and will not work.
Now, you have to NOT do what you think is the right thing to do. These are common mistake people make when they try to get back their ex.
Many of tips on how to get your ex back are counter-intuitive. Surprisingly, that is the reason why they work so well.
Thursday, July 2, 2009
Tried And Tested Ways To Save Your Marriage
Marriage is never a thing that should be taken for granted by anybody. It should always be seen as something that is sacred, a covenant agreed upon by two people for life. As much as possible, it should be saved since it is the basic unit in every society.
Whenever you feel that your marriage is on the rocks and is about to collapse, you should at least try to think twice. Weigh the pros and cons of every single thing that will be affected when you decide to call it quits. It is never too late to retract your decision if you think that it is the right thing to do and if you feel that it is worth saving. Save your marriage. Everything will most probably turn out for the best.
Here are the things that you can do to save your marriage:
1. You should save your marriage before it even starts. Marriage should be a commitment that starts as a work in progress even before you say your marriage vows. Make sure that as much as possible, you are able to maintain all the sweet things that you do for each other are maintained all throughout. This is easier said than done, though, so you should be careful.
2. Try to grow together, not grow apart. Even though you both may have very busy schedules, always find time to do the things that you love to do together, even if they're just mundane chores that needs to be done at home, like cleaning, washing the dishes, etc. This will help you maintain being romantic to each other and also, help you appreciate each other at all times.
3. Discover new things together. Take time off from time to time taking long trips, trying out new things, experimenting on new ideas. This will keep both of you on your toes, leaving no room for you and your partner to look for the excitement of new things with another person.
4. If you feel that your marriage is headed to a downward slide, start moving forward. Do not let the tides take you with them. Fight it as if you're fighting for survival. Most of the time, a lot of things are dependent on your marriage, most especially the welfare of your children. Work it out.
To save your marriage, learn to communicate effectively with your spouse. Keeping all the communication lines open at all times will enable you to have a rein on things at all times and will help you stay in control of your marriage. Save your marriage before it even starts and maintain it all throughout.
Whenever you feel that your marriage is on the rocks and is about to collapse, you should at least try to think twice. Weigh the pros and cons of every single thing that will be affected when you decide to call it quits. It is never too late to retract your decision if you think that it is the right thing to do and if you feel that it is worth saving. Save your marriage. Everything will most probably turn out for the best.
Here are the things that you can do to save your marriage:
1. You should save your marriage before it even starts. Marriage should be a commitment that starts as a work in progress even before you say your marriage vows. Make sure that as much as possible, you are able to maintain all the sweet things that you do for each other are maintained all throughout. This is easier said than done, though, so you should be careful.
2. Try to grow together, not grow apart. Even though you both may have very busy schedules, always find time to do the things that you love to do together, even if they're just mundane chores that needs to be done at home, like cleaning, washing the dishes, etc. This will help you maintain being romantic to each other and also, help you appreciate each other at all times.
3. Discover new things together. Take time off from time to time taking long trips, trying out new things, experimenting on new ideas. This will keep both of you on your toes, leaving no room for you and your partner to look for the excitement of new things with another person.
4. If you feel that your marriage is headed to a downward slide, start moving forward. Do not let the tides take you with them. Fight it as if you're fighting for survival. Most of the time, a lot of things are dependent on your marriage, most especially the welfare of your children. Work it out.
To save your marriage, learn to communicate effectively with your spouse. Keeping all the communication lines open at all times will enable you to have a rein on things at all times and will help you stay in control of your marriage. Save your marriage before it even starts and maintain it all throughout.
Are you being lied to?
Very important . . .listen to your instincts!
Knowing whether you are being lied to or not, does not require mind reading or psychic power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be determined by a person�s behavior, and if you pay attention to these behaviors, you will be able to have a better idea of whether you are being lied to or not. The most important thing you should always remember to do however is to trust your instincts.
If you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in good touch with their instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to believe that their partner would deceive them in any way. Staying in touch with your instincts will help guide you in the right direction.
Though instincts are a great help, they can be tricky. Majority of the times, your instincts will not lie to you, but there are times when your instincts can be influenced by your fears and insecurities. For example, you may already have fears of being cheated on, therefore you may feel that your partner is lying to you and cheating on you, when in fact he or she may be telling you the truth and completely faithful to you.
This is why it is essential to understand the behavior of a liar, so that you can define the difference between really catching on to a liar, or just being paranoid that your partner is lying to.
Watch the Body Language
One important thing to remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes in the way your partner moves (or does not movie) his/her arms, hands, head and the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she is telling the truth. Since he/she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior automatically changes because they are now trying to act truthful, instead of actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you.
There is a fear that you will see through him or her if there is eye contact, so eye contact will be avoided. Whether you realize it or not, your body also communicates when you talk. When you are enthusiastic about telling your partner something and are telling the truth, you will move your hands around and will look into his/her eyes to make a connection.
If your partner is lying however, he or she will tense up, will most likely tone down on the hand movement and eye connection and will seem different than other times. If your partner is the type to still move his/her hands around even when he/she is lying, then pay attention to the timing of the movements. Timing is everything and can define the difference between the truth and a lie.
When a person is telling the truth for example, his/her hands (and whatever body movement he/she does) will move at the same time when telling you something. When he/she is lying however, the body language will be off and will usually come shortly after he/she has told you the lie. This is because they have to think about acting natural, and this thinking causes them to be off key.
Last but not Least:
Clearing of the throat, touching him or herself often and saying “Umm”
Another sign of a lying partner is if he/she touch his/her nose or face a lot while talking to you. They will feel nervous about telling you lies and will want to occupy their hands somehow as a way to cover up their lie, such as touching the nose, rubbing their eyes and so on. Your partner may even clear his or her throat more than usual when talking to you, look away a lot and/or say umm a lot when lying to you.
They are using these as time killers so they can think of how to tell you the lie in the most convincing way possible. These are just some of the signs of a lying partner and are the most common signs. Remember, it is always important to trust your instincts first.
If you feel that your partner is lying to you, start paying closer attention to his/her behavior and if there are any changes, then you will be able to catch on to the lies better and can further investigate from that point. Receive Love Advice and Professional Help.
Knowing whether you are being lied to or not, does not require mind reading or psychic power. Understanding the difference between the truth and a lie can all be determined by a person�s behavior, and if you pay attention to these behaviors, you will be able to have a better idea of whether you are being lied to or not. The most important thing you should always remember to do however is to trust your instincts.
If you feel you are not getting the entire truth from your partner for some reason, then listen to your instincts. Most people are in good touch with their instincts, but rather not listen to that inner voice because they refuse to believe that their partner would deceive them in any way. Staying in touch with your instincts will help guide you in the right direction.
Though instincts are a great help, they can be tricky. Majority of the times, your instincts will not lie to you, but there are times when your instincts can be influenced by your fears and insecurities. For example, you may already have fears of being cheated on, therefore you may feel that your partner is lying to you and cheating on you, when in fact he or she may be telling you the truth and completely faithful to you.
This is why it is essential to understand the behavior of a liar, so that you can define the difference between really catching on to a liar, or just being paranoid that your partner is lying to.
Watch the Body Language
One important thing to remember is that the body never lies. If there are changes in the way your partner moves (or does not movie) his/her arms, hands, head and the way his/her eyes shift, then you are most likely being lied to. The reason the body language changes when a person is lying is because the person now has to think of a way to seem convincing that he/she is telling the truth. Since he/she knows that whatever they are telling you is a lie, the behavior automatically changes because they are now trying to act truthful, instead of actually being truthful. One big sign to look out for is in the eyes. If your partner avoids eye contact with you, then he/she is lying to you.
There is a fear that you will see through him or her if there is eye contact, so eye contact will be avoided. Whether you realize it or not, your body also communicates when you talk. When you are enthusiastic about telling your partner something and are telling the truth, you will move your hands around and will look into his/her eyes to make a connection.
If your partner is lying however, he or she will tense up, will most likely tone down on the hand movement and eye connection and will seem different than other times. If your partner is the type to still move his/her hands around even when he/she is lying, then pay attention to the timing of the movements. Timing is everything and can define the difference between the truth and a lie.
When a person is telling the truth for example, his/her hands (and whatever body movement he/she does) will move at the same time when telling you something. When he/she is lying however, the body language will be off and will usually come shortly after he/she has told you the lie. This is because they have to think about acting natural, and this thinking causes them to be off key.
Last but not Least:
Clearing of the throat, touching him or herself often and saying “Umm”
Another sign of a lying partner is if he/she touch his/her nose or face a lot while talking to you. They will feel nervous about telling you lies and will want to occupy their hands somehow as a way to cover up their lie, such as touching the nose, rubbing their eyes and so on. Your partner may even clear his or her throat more than usual when talking to you, look away a lot and/or say umm a lot when lying to you.
They are using these as time killers so they can think of how to tell you the lie in the most convincing way possible. These are just some of the signs of a lying partner and are the most common signs. Remember, it is always important to trust your instincts first.
If you feel that your partner is lying to you, start paying closer attention to his/her behavior and if there are any changes, then you will be able to catch on to the lies better and can further investigate from that point. Receive Love Advice and Professional Help.
Ending An Affair
Having been dating this girl for close to three years, i recently discover that am not emotionally attracted to her, i like her as a person, she is kind, honest. How sex life is ok, no rationing like most girls do, but i just want to end it with her, what is the best approach to go about it, have tried not calling her for weeks so that she will just get tired of me and call it off, but instead she will just laugh over it. So whats the best method to break up with her
from David
from David
Excerpt from courtship-stories.com
Dedicated to Aileen and Ryan
Though sweet and thoughtful,Ryan didn't often indulge Aileen with flowers or moonlit walks on the beach.
So imagine Aileen's surprise when he suddenly turned romantic and insisted on a stroll in the sand in Hawaii."I wanted to propose on the beach,but it was pretty coldand windy,"Ryan said."I wanted to be romantic,how you picture it happening in the movies."
Aileen recalled Ryan's persistence about walking on the beach.She wore a tiny dress and wanted to get out of the cold."Fine,let's get this over with,"she told him"She was arguing all the way,"Ryan said.
"‘Why are here? You never want to go on the beach.'" They made it as far as a bench.Aileen sat down, shivering. Ryan knelt down and Aileen assumed that he wanted to snuggle."Babe,what are you doing?"she said.
"You're beautiful.I love you,"he said."You mean the world to me. Will you marry me?"Ryan slipped a ring on her finger so big that the prongs could barely contain the stone.
In the dark, Aileen didn't realize it was the three-carat cubic zirconia ring she had bought at Macy's as a joke."I know it's not the real thing,but I wanted to propose this weekend,"Ryan said.
He would give her the flawlessdiamond when they returned."I didn't want to pass upthis beautiful opportunity.""Yes,of course,"Aileen said.She hugged him and cried.Then she giggled and laughed.And then she froze."I was happy.I was really impressed by what he did.He cannot hold a surprise."
Though sweet and thoughtful,Ryan didn't often indulge Aileen with flowers or moonlit walks on the beach.
So imagine Aileen's surprise when he suddenly turned romantic and insisted on a stroll in the sand in Hawaii."I wanted to propose on the beach,but it was pretty coldand windy,"Ryan said."I wanted to be romantic,how you picture it happening in the movies."
Aileen recalled Ryan's persistence about walking on the beach.She wore a tiny dress and wanted to get out of the cold."Fine,let's get this over with,"she told him"She was arguing all the way,"Ryan said.
"‘Why are here? You never want to go on the beach.'" They made it as far as a bench.Aileen sat down, shivering. Ryan knelt down and Aileen assumed that he wanted to snuggle."Babe,what are you doing?"she said.
"You're beautiful.I love you,"he said."You mean the world to me. Will you marry me?"Ryan slipped a ring on her finger so big that the prongs could barely contain the stone.
In the dark, Aileen didn't realize it was the three-carat cubic zirconia ring she had bought at Macy's as a joke."I know it's not the real thing,but I wanted to propose this weekend,"Ryan said.
He would give her the flawlessdiamond when they returned."I didn't want to pass upthis beautiful opportunity.""Yes,of course,"Aileen said.She hugged him and cried.Then she giggled and laughed.And then she froze."I was happy.I was really impressed by what he did.He cannot hold a surprise."
My First Heart Break
When I was 14 years old in the ninth grade we had a new boy at our school.I lived in Hawaii. His name was Jason Reeds. When I first saw Jason I went head over heels. He was so fine and sexy! Real smooth too. When he asked me out he said that I had the eyes of an angel. I thought that he had the most beautiful smile ever! We went out and when I first kissed him I felt as if I was in heaven. Like the moment would last forever!
Then the next day at school when I was at lunch I heard that there was a rumor going around that Jason was making out with Toni Morrison during study hall. I could not believe this, the rumor couldn't have been true. Jason would never cheat on me, would he?
When school was over that day I asked Jason if the rumor was true. His cheeks grew red and I could tell that he was hiding
something. "Of course not, I would never cheat on you." he said. I looked Jason straight in the eye. He smiled at me but I still didn't believe him. We both just stood there. Then Jason said "come on, you do believe me, right?" I replied, "Actually, no!" his eyes grew wide with furry. "Look here," he said. "I ain't cheating on you and you have no right to acuse me!" he yelled. I told Jason to get his hands off of me but his grip grew stronger. When I finally broke away from him I ran home and cried for days. He was my first true love and it hurt more than anyhting that he had betrayed and lied to me. Because I really did love him. My heart wass broken.
That was my first Heart Break!
Then the next day at school when I was at lunch I heard that there was a rumor going around that Jason was making out with Toni Morrison during study hall. I could not believe this, the rumor couldn't have been true. Jason would never cheat on me, would he?
When school was over that day I asked Jason if the rumor was true. His cheeks grew red and I could tell that he was hiding
something. "Of course not, I would never cheat on you." he said. I looked Jason straight in the eye. He smiled at me but I still didn't believe him. We both just stood there. Then Jason said "come on, you do believe me, right?" I replied, "Actually, no!" his eyes grew wide with furry. "Look here," he said. "I ain't cheating on you and you have no right to acuse me!" he yelled. I told Jason to get his hands off of me but his grip grew stronger. When I finally broke away from him I ran home and cried for days. He was my first true love and it hurt more than anyhting that he had betrayed and lied to me. Because I really did love him. My heart wass broken.
That was my first Heart Break!
Love letter to my husband in Iraq
To my Loving Husband,
I pray each night for strength to see the difference in duty and your love to me. I understand that when duty calls, you must go. I know in my heart you are doing your part and serving our country. I am so very proud of you! I also pray for the strength to carry on, and a task to do each day to fill the time you're away. I stand beside you through thick and thin, through all life will throw our way.
Knowing that our special love will guide us in the right direction each and every day. When you aren't here to share my days and nights with me, my life is incomplete. For you are my heart and soul. Without you here, I merely exist from day to day. I sit and wait for your return so I can feel complete again. You are the keeper of my dreams, the one who holds my heart in your hands.
You are the one I spend most of my time thinking about. I lie on the ground and stare into space, the stars start to move in the shape of your face. I see you there now, looking down at me with that cunning smile that I like to see. You say "close your eyes and tell me what you see." I see only two people just you and me. We are walking the shoreline of Hawaii, with our feet getting wet. The horizon turns pink, as the sun starts to set. We make love through the night, on that white sandy shore.
Then I hold you, while thinking I could want nothing more. Oh I wish I could be in that one special place as I lie on the ground and stare into space. Your touch is with me always. It's burnt into my skin. Your voice is never silent. It's forever in my ears. Your arms always holding me, like the strength of angels wings. They support and protect me with the safety of true love. I can never repay you for the joy you bring to my life. However I can always be true, a true wife.
I am a strong and loving wife, with a husband who had to go away. There are times I'm terrified for you, in away most never know. I bite my lip, and force a smile for our children's sake. When we watched you pack your bags, my heart was breaking. But I am a very proud wife.
You are the sun that always seems to brighten up our day. You are, our shining star above, perfect in every way, no matter where we are, or what we are doing. One thing that always stays with us, is how you love us in that special way.
Love You.
I pray each night for strength to see the difference in duty and your love to me. I understand that when duty calls, you must go. I know in my heart you are doing your part and serving our country. I am so very proud of you! I also pray for the strength to carry on, and a task to do each day to fill the time you're away. I stand beside you through thick and thin, through all life will throw our way.
Knowing that our special love will guide us in the right direction each and every day. When you aren't here to share my days and nights with me, my life is incomplete. For you are my heart and soul. Without you here, I merely exist from day to day. I sit and wait for your return so I can feel complete again. You are the keeper of my dreams, the one who holds my heart in your hands.
You are the one I spend most of my time thinking about. I lie on the ground and stare into space, the stars start to move in the shape of your face. I see you there now, looking down at me with that cunning smile that I like to see. You say "close your eyes and tell me what you see." I see only two people just you and me. We are walking the shoreline of Hawaii, with our feet getting wet. The horizon turns pink, as the sun starts to set. We make love through the night, on that white sandy shore.
Then I hold you, while thinking I could want nothing more. Oh I wish I could be in that one special place as I lie on the ground and stare into space. Your touch is with me always. It's burnt into my skin. Your voice is never silent. It's forever in my ears. Your arms always holding me, like the strength of angels wings. They support and protect me with the safety of true love. I can never repay you for the joy you bring to my life. However I can always be true, a true wife.
I am a strong and loving wife, with a husband who had to go away. There are times I'm terrified for you, in away most never know. I bite my lip, and force a smile for our children's sake. When we watched you pack your bags, my heart was breaking. But I am a very proud wife.
You are the sun that always seems to brighten up our day. You are, our shining star above, perfect in every way, no matter where we are, or what we are doing. One thing that always stays with us, is how you love us in that special way.
Love You.
Wednesday, July 1, 2009
Michael Jackson: Demise of music mega star
The story of the world acclaimed King of Pop, Michael Jackson will not be complete without tracing the genesis of the Jackson Five, the teen musical group that brought him into the limelight. Michael passed away on Thursday at the UCLA Medical Center in New York after being hit by cardiac arrest. He was 50.
The kind of family that produced Michael had been responsible for his success. Michael’s father, Joseph Jackson was a man of musical ambitions. Back in the days, through a band called The Falcons where he was an electric guitarist, he had struggled without success to have a big break in show business. But what Joe could not get himself he tried to have through his children.
Married to Katherine Corse in 1949, Joe worked in the steel mills in Chicago to support his nine children. And as his older sons began to show interest in music, he organized them into a group and made them appear in local talent shows.
At the beginning, the musical Jackson brothers were three including Sigmund Esco aka Jackie, Toriano Adaryl aka Tito and Jermaine La Jaune, who was called by his first name. Marlon David soon joined the group when he was old enough to do so. For Michael, who had shown a talent for singing in kindergarten, he had to wait till he was five years old before teaming up with his older brothers to complete the Jackson Five. Even though, Michael was the youngest of them, he emerged the leader of the group.
Lost childhood
While other children spent their free time hanging out with friends or romping at the playground, Michael was busy rehearsing music with his brothers. But the hard work paid off not long before Jackson Five swept all the talent contests in the community. Indeed, Michael was on his way to stardom. Two albums came in quick succession but made little impact. Soon, Joe packed his talented children in a Volkswagen bus and hit the road playing in nightclubs and other places. This routine of performing at night and going to school the next day took a heavy toll on the boys but they trudged on until they caught the attention of Motown mogul, Berry Gordy, who invited them for a performance at his mansion in Detroit. Since then, there was no looking back for the Jackson Five with Michael as the leader.
Debut album
The Jackson Five’s debut album on Motown label was released in 1969. Michael’s voice in the album was distinct as he sings I Want You Back, which became No. 1 on the music chart. Other hits released on Motown label included ABC, The Love You Saved, I’ll Be There, Mama’s Pearl and Never Can Say Goodbye, which climbed to No. 2 spot on the chart in 1971.
The enthusiasm generated by the Jackson Five was huge as police had hectic time controlling the crowd that trooped out to watch their shows while young girls had their posters pinned on the wall. It was amazing how a young child like Michael could command such followership.
Going solo
During his days with the Jackson Five, Michael dropped two singles, Got To Be There and Ben, which topped the chart in 1972. But it was not until 1979 that he parted ways with his siblings to fully explore a solo career. Before then, in 1976, the Jackson Five had left Motown to sign a recording contract with Epic Records, a part of CBS recording group, but leaving behind Jermaine, who was married to Berry Gordy’s daughter. Due to a new contractual agreement at Epic, the group changed its name to The Jacksons and released some albums.
For Michael, however, it was time to put his future in proper focus. He started writing songs in preparation for his solo career. In 1979, he launched out with his debut album, Off the Wall, which sold over eight million copies. Three years later, in 1982, Michael rocked the world with Thriller, which included the blockbuster hits "Beat It," "Billie Jean" and "Thriller", and set a record of having top 10 single hits in one album. Thriller went along to sell 104 million copies thus becoming the best selling album in the world till date. With more than two dozens solo efforts (both singles and albums including Bad -1987, Dangerous-1991, HIStory-1995,), 13 Grammys and more that 750 million records sold worldwide till he passed away on Thursday, Michael’s place in music history is most assured. As long as his music lives, he lives. Apart from music, Michael also starred in movies. He got the plum Scarecrow role in the 1978 movie musical "The Wiz," a pop-R&B version of "The Wizard of Oz," that starred Diana Ross as Dorothy
Immortal
In an interview granted Ebony magazine in 2007 to mark 25th anniversary of Thriller, Michael had craved immortality: “I always want to do music that influences and inspires each generation. Let’s face it, who wants mortality? You want what you create to live, and I give my all in my work because I want it to live.”
The Wacko Jacko
Even at 50, Michael refused to grow up. Tucked away behind the gates of his Neverland ranch in California, the Wacko Jacko rarely ventures out. He’s lonely in the 2,700 acre ranch with animals, toys, miniature railroad and of course, little children. A once boyishly handsome dude, the pop icon used surgery and cosmetics to redefine his face in a most bizarre manner. He once acquired an oxygen bed, and as years went by became an increasingly freakish figure - a middle-aged man-child weirdly out of touch with grown-up life. His skin became lighter, his nose narrower, and he spoke in a breathy, girlish voice. He often wore a germ mask while travelling, kept a pet chimpanzee named Bubbles as one of his closest companions, and surrounded himself with children at his ranch, which made the tabloids dub him "Wacko Jacko."
Behaving true to type, Michael's scalp sustained burns when an explosion set his hair on fire during the production of a 1984 Pepsi commercial. In 2002, Michael caused a furore when he playfully dangled his infant son, Prince Michael II, over a hotel balcony in Berlin, Germany while a throng of fans watched from below.
But in spite of his weirdness, the pop legend was perhaps the most exciting performer of his generation, known for his backward-gliding moonwalk, his feverish, crotch-grabbing dance moves and his high-pitched singing, punctuated with squeals and titters. His single sequined glove, tight military-style jacket and aviator sunglasses were trademarks, as was his ever changing, surgically altered appearance.
Marriage and family life
Michael did not enjoy a stable family life. He married Lisa Marie Presley in 1994, and they divorced in 1996. Later that year, Jackson married Deborah Rowe, a former nurse for his dermatologist. They had two children together: Michael Joseph Jackson Jr., known as Prince Michael, now 12; and Paris Michael Katherine Jackson, 11. Rowe filed for divorce in 1999. Michael also had a third child, Prince Michael II. Now 7, Jackson said the boy nicknamed “Blanket” as a baby was his biological child born from a surrogate mother.
Scandals and financial calamities
In 1993, Michael’s eccentricities hit the peak when he was alleged to have sexually abused a 13 year-old cancer survivor at Neverland. He had been accused of plying the boy with alcohol and groping him, and of engaging in strange and inappropriate behavior with other children. In a TV documentary Michael, however, acknowledged sharing his bed with children, a practice he described as sweet and not at all sexual. The accusation nearly brought down the music star. He escaped being jailed but paid his accuser a huge ransom to get off the case. But the damage has been done as the lurid allegations that came out in court took a fearsome toll on Michael’s career and image, and he fell into serious financial trouble.
Aborted comeback
Death has aborted the great comeback show planned by Michael Jackson. He was to perform a series of concerts in London this summer in a bid to vanquish nightmare years of sexual scandal and financial calamity. At the time of his death, Jackson was rehearsing for what was to be his greatest comeback: He was scheduled for an unprecedented 50 shows at a London arena, with the first set for July 13. But before death did the fatal blow, it was rumoured that Michael was unfit healthwise to handle the concert which were rather too many. In the rehearsals he was to attend, he succeeded in attending just one, and the organizers who has sold tickets in advance found out rather later after the tickets have gone on sale that he was not fit. For three times – May and July this year and nex year the concerts were postponed. At last it would no longer hold as Jackson is dead.
Tragic end
Ranked alongside Elvis Presley and the Beatles as the biggest pop sensations of all time, Michael's death on Thursday has brought a tragic end to a long, bizarre, sometimes farcical decline from his peak in the 1980s, when he was popular music's premier all-around performer, a uniter of black and white music who shattered the race barrier on MTV, dominated the charts and dazzled even more on stage.
The kind of family that produced Michael had been responsible for his success. Michael’s father, Joseph Jackson was a man of musical ambitions. Back in the days, through a band called The Falcons where he was an electric guitarist, he had struggled without success to have a big break in show business. But what Joe could not get himself he tried to have through his children.
Married to Katherine Corse in 1949, Joe worked in the steel mills in Chicago to support his nine children. And as his older sons began to show interest in music, he organized them into a group and made them appear in local talent shows.
At the beginning, the musical Jackson brothers were three including Sigmund Esco aka Jackie, Toriano Adaryl aka Tito and Jermaine La Jaune, who was called by his first name. Marlon David soon joined the group when he was old enough to do so. For Michael, who had shown a talent for singing in kindergarten, he had to wait till he was five years old before teaming up with his older brothers to complete the Jackson Five. Even though, Michael was the youngest of them, he emerged the leader of the group.
Lost childhood
While other children spent their free time hanging out with friends or romping at the playground, Michael was busy rehearsing music with his brothers. But the hard work paid off not long before Jackson Five swept all the talent contests in the community. Indeed, Michael was on his way to stardom. Two albums came in quick succession but made little impact. Soon, Joe packed his talented children in a Volkswagen bus and hit the road playing in nightclubs and other places. This routine of performing at night and going to school the next day took a heavy toll on the boys but they trudged on until they caught the attention of Motown mogul, Berry Gordy, who invited them for a performance at his mansion in Detroit. Since then, there was no looking back for the Jackson Five with Michael as the leader.
Debut album
The Jackson Five’s debut album on Motown label was released in 1969. Michael’s voice in the album was distinct as he sings I Want You Back, which became No. 1 on the music chart. Other hits released on Motown label included ABC, The Love You Saved, I’ll Be There, Mama’s Pearl and Never Can Say Goodbye, which climbed to No. 2 spot on the chart in 1971.
The enthusiasm generated by the Jackson Five was huge as police had hectic time controlling the crowd that trooped out to watch their shows while young girls had their posters pinned on the wall. It was amazing how a young child like Michael could command such followership.
Going solo
During his days with the Jackson Five, Michael dropped two singles, Got To Be There and Ben, which topped the chart in 1972. But it was not until 1979 that he parted ways with his siblings to fully explore a solo career. Before then, in 1976, the Jackson Five had left Motown to sign a recording contract with Epic Records, a part of CBS recording group, but leaving behind Jermaine, who was married to Berry Gordy’s daughter. Due to a new contractual agreement at Epic, the group changed its name to The Jacksons and released some albums.
For Michael, however, it was time to put his future in proper focus. He started writing songs in preparation for his solo career. In 1979, he launched out with his debut album, Off the Wall, which sold over eight million copies. Three years later, in 1982, Michael rocked the world with Thriller, which included the blockbuster hits "Beat It," "Billie Jean" and "Thriller", and set a record of having top 10 single hits in one album. Thriller went along to sell 104 million copies thus becoming the best selling album in the world till date. With more than two dozens solo efforts (both singles and albums including Bad -1987, Dangerous-1991, HIStory-1995,), 13 Grammys and more that 750 million records sold worldwide till he passed away on Thursday, Michael’s place in music history is most assured. As long as his music lives, he lives. Apart from music, Michael also starred in movies. He got the plum Scarecrow role in the 1978 movie musical "The Wiz," a pop-R&B version of "The Wizard of Oz," that starred Diana Ross as Dorothy
Immortal
In an interview granted Ebony magazine in 2007 to mark 25th anniversary of Thriller, Michael had craved immortality: “I always want to do music that influences and inspires each generation. Let’s face it, who wants mortality? You want what you create to live, and I give my all in my work because I want it to live.”
The Wacko Jacko
Even at 50, Michael refused to grow up. Tucked away behind the gates of his Neverland ranch in California, the Wacko Jacko rarely ventures out. He’s lonely in the 2,700 acre ranch with animals, toys, miniature railroad and of course, little children. A once boyishly handsome dude, the pop icon used surgery and cosmetics to redefine his face in a most bizarre manner. He once acquired an oxygen bed, and as years went by became an increasingly freakish figure - a middle-aged man-child weirdly out of touch with grown-up life. His skin became lighter, his nose narrower, and he spoke in a breathy, girlish voice. He often wore a germ mask while travelling, kept a pet chimpanzee named Bubbles as one of his closest companions, and surrounded himself with children at his ranch, which made the tabloids dub him "Wacko Jacko."
Behaving true to type, Michael's scalp sustained burns when an explosion set his hair on fire during the production of a 1984 Pepsi commercial. In 2002, Michael caused a furore when he playfully dangled his infant son, Prince Michael II, over a hotel balcony in Berlin, Germany while a throng of fans watched from below.
But in spite of his weirdness, the pop legend was perhaps the most exciting performer of his generation, known for his backward-gliding moonwalk, his feverish, crotch-grabbing dance moves and his high-pitched singing, punctuated with squeals and titters. His single sequined glove, tight military-style jacket and aviator sunglasses were trademarks, as was his ever changing, surgically altered appearance.
Marriage and family life
Michael did not enjoy a stable family life. He married Lisa Marie Presley in 1994, and they divorced in 1996. Later that year, Jackson married Deborah Rowe, a former nurse for his dermatologist. They had two children together: Michael Joseph Jackson Jr., known as Prince Michael, now 12; and Paris Michael Katherine Jackson, 11. Rowe filed for divorce in 1999. Michael also had a third child, Prince Michael II. Now 7, Jackson said the boy nicknamed “Blanket” as a baby was his biological child born from a surrogate mother.
Scandals and financial calamities
In 1993, Michael’s eccentricities hit the peak when he was alleged to have sexually abused a 13 year-old cancer survivor at Neverland. He had been accused of plying the boy with alcohol and groping him, and of engaging in strange and inappropriate behavior with other children. In a TV documentary Michael, however, acknowledged sharing his bed with children, a practice he described as sweet and not at all sexual. The accusation nearly brought down the music star. He escaped being jailed but paid his accuser a huge ransom to get off the case. But the damage has been done as the lurid allegations that came out in court took a fearsome toll on Michael’s career and image, and he fell into serious financial trouble.
Aborted comeback
Death has aborted the great comeback show planned by Michael Jackson. He was to perform a series of concerts in London this summer in a bid to vanquish nightmare years of sexual scandal and financial calamity. At the time of his death, Jackson was rehearsing for what was to be his greatest comeback: He was scheduled for an unprecedented 50 shows at a London arena, with the first set for July 13. But before death did the fatal blow, it was rumoured that Michael was unfit healthwise to handle the concert which were rather too many. In the rehearsals he was to attend, he succeeded in attending just one, and the organizers who has sold tickets in advance found out rather later after the tickets have gone on sale that he was not fit. For three times – May and July this year and nex year the concerts were postponed. At last it would no longer hold as Jackson is dead.
Tragic end
Ranked alongside Elvis Presley and the Beatles as the biggest pop sensations of all time, Michael's death on Thursday has brought a tragic end to a long, bizarre, sometimes farcical decline from his peak in the 1980s, when he was popular music's premier all-around performer, a uniter of black and white music who shattered the race barrier on MTV, dominated the charts and dazzled even more on stage.
Tuesday, June 30, 2009
Dark Days
First story I wrote since I've been bored... It's a story about a girl and her best friend on a summer trip. What they thought was going to be fun turned into a winding road of love, drama, and jokes
It was a dark night and the sky was completely clear, and filled with stars. There was nothing but the sound of the crickets calling to each other in the grass outside the tent. Jasmine and I had gotten all settled in our cozy "camp" where we would be staying for a week. School had just ended yesterday with farewells, and see ya next years. We decided to miss the last day of our sophomore year, though, to finish packing for hopefully the best week of our lives.
We had arrived at the lake later then expected and were exhausted. Jasmine was literally collapsing, and looked like some drone trying to unload the car. The campsite we chose was just a plain wooded area that we found and decided to park. We really didn’t have a specific destination. All we knew is that we were going camping where it looked the best.
The lake was pretty big, and had a dock where we could sit and stick our feet in the water, which was pretty warm considering the heat. If you ever listened in science you’d know that water is coldest when it’s humid, or hot out, but not in this case. The water was creepy warm, un-natural warm. Most of the shore area was covered with trees and brush. The whole lake was completely deserted by the public.
Once everything was unloaded from the car we began to set up the tent. I was trying to lay the tent out flat, while Jasmine wrestled with the poles.
"You gonna make it over there, or should I set up the poles?" I laughed.
"Shut up Selene!" Jas yelled.
We put the tent as close to the shoreline as possible, without getting carried away by the tide. By the time we were finished setting up the tent it was almost dark outside, no thanks to Jasmine and her death match with the tent poles.
"Now, how about we tell some super scary stories, seeing as the sun is practically down. Only the scariest are allowed. I mean like the kind that will keep me up all night." I stated
"You’ve got to be kidding me!" Jasmine replied, "we don’t need scary stories to scare us. We’re the biggest scared cats alive!"
"Hey speak for yourself!" I shouted.
I grabbed the flashlight and put it on the top of the tent so we could play charade shadows instead. Jasmine put her hand up, and made a dog (I never would’ve guessed that; not). We started laughing so hard our stomachs hurt. I thought my lungs were going to burst.
Jasmine fell backwards from laughing and spilled her soda all over the place on the blankets which, of course, made everything instantly sticky. As soon as we caught out breath, and looked back up to make more shadow puppets, we saw a shadow of a man outside of our tent.
Panicking, I searched for the pocket knife that I kept in my bag, and ran around the back of the tent where we saw him. When I got there, there was nothing but an area of leaves flattened where he was sitting. Poof! Just like that he was gone!
Jasmine was practically having a seizure in the tent so I started freaking out as well. What do you do when someone’s almost having a seizure? I mean it’s not like Jasmine has medical issues or anything. I should’ve listened less in science and more in health. JEEZE! I thought to myself.
"Jasmine, are you okay? There’s nothing put there so don’t worry about it.
I’m sure it was just our imagination. If there was something out there I would have gone kong-fu on their ass!" I paused, "well I guess it’s a good thing we didn’t tell scary stories after all."
The quiet after that was a little unnerving. Jas wasn’t saying anything.
By Kaylar Barstool
It was a dark night and the sky was completely clear, and filled with stars. There was nothing but the sound of the crickets calling to each other in the grass outside the tent. Jasmine and I had gotten all settled in our cozy "camp" where we would be staying for a week. School had just ended yesterday with farewells, and see ya next years. We decided to miss the last day of our sophomore year, though, to finish packing for hopefully the best week of our lives.
We had arrived at the lake later then expected and were exhausted. Jasmine was literally collapsing, and looked like some drone trying to unload the car. The campsite we chose was just a plain wooded area that we found and decided to park. We really didn’t have a specific destination. All we knew is that we were going camping where it looked the best.
The lake was pretty big, and had a dock where we could sit and stick our feet in the water, which was pretty warm considering the heat. If you ever listened in science you’d know that water is coldest when it’s humid, or hot out, but not in this case. The water was creepy warm, un-natural warm. Most of the shore area was covered with trees and brush. The whole lake was completely deserted by the public.
Once everything was unloaded from the car we began to set up the tent. I was trying to lay the tent out flat, while Jasmine wrestled with the poles.
"You gonna make it over there, or should I set up the poles?" I laughed.
"Shut up Selene!" Jas yelled.
We put the tent as close to the shoreline as possible, without getting carried away by the tide. By the time we were finished setting up the tent it was almost dark outside, no thanks to Jasmine and her death match with the tent poles.
"Now, how about we tell some super scary stories, seeing as the sun is practically down. Only the scariest are allowed. I mean like the kind that will keep me up all night." I stated
"You’ve got to be kidding me!" Jasmine replied, "we don’t need scary stories to scare us. We’re the biggest scared cats alive!"
"Hey speak for yourself!" I shouted.
I grabbed the flashlight and put it on the top of the tent so we could play charade shadows instead. Jasmine put her hand up, and made a dog (I never would’ve guessed that; not). We started laughing so hard our stomachs hurt. I thought my lungs were going to burst.
Jasmine fell backwards from laughing and spilled her soda all over the place on the blankets which, of course, made everything instantly sticky. As soon as we caught out breath, and looked back up to make more shadow puppets, we saw a shadow of a man outside of our tent.
Panicking, I searched for the pocket knife that I kept in my bag, and ran around the back of the tent where we saw him. When I got there, there was nothing but an area of leaves flattened where he was sitting. Poof! Just like that he was gone!
Jasmine was practically having a seizure in the tent so I started freaking out as well. What do you do when someone’s almost having a seizure? I mean it’s not like Jasmine has medical issues or anything. I should’ve listened less in science and more in health. JEEZE! I thought to myself.
"Jasmine, are you okay? There’s nothing put there so don’t worry about it.
I’m sure it was just our imagination. If there was something out there I would have gone kong-fu on their ass!" I paused, "well I guess it’s a good thing we didn’t tell scary stories after all."
The quiet after that was a little unnerving. Jas wasn’t saying anything.
By Kaylar Barstool
I Love With Two Sisters
They say falling in love is the dumbest think that will ever happen to any one. And another saying goes that every one needs some to love in his or life e.g love a cat, dog, rat, lady, men. Infact we all fall in love one time or another in our life.
Have you ever fall in love with two sisters at the same time, sound dump to you, but it actually happens. Some of us might find it strange that how can one fall in love with two sisters. Lets here stories of anyone that have ever dated two sisters at the same time without them finding out
Have you ever fall in love with two sisters at the same time, sound dump to you, but it actually happens. Some of us might find it strange that how can one fall in love with two sisters. Lets here stories of anyone that have ever dated two sisters at the same time without them finding out
Monday, June 29, 2009
Surprise Gifts for ladies
This problem is getting out of hand this days, getting a gift for a lady without asking her what she would like is killing brothers. You want it to be a surprise, you want to see her glow when she receives it, you want her to jump on you and hug you with lots of promises . However, if you pocket is well in the overflowing level, you wont have this problem. Take for instance , you are a student and you want to surprise your girl friend with a gift even when is not her birthday, what will you get her that she will appreciate, love and cherish .
Which we guys can read the ladies mind, don't want to get something that will look normal or just another item in her possession , getting her a car is cool, every girl will surely love getting a car as gift and the surprise will be the bomb. What will a girl really like as a surprise gift
Which we guys can read the ladies mind, don't want to get something that will look normal or just another item in her possession , getting her a car is cool, every girl will surely love getting a car as gift and the surprise will be the bomb. What will a girl really like as a surprise gift
Maintaining a Long-Distance Relationship
How to make a long distance relationship work needs effort and commitment on both parties. It is not easy to maintain a good relationship and it is even harder if the relationship is long distance.
However, if you really want to make a relationship work, it does not matter whether you are living on both ends of the earth.
If you are in a long distance relationship, it is necessary to make extra effort. You must set clear parameters in your relationship including knowing the level of your commitment.
You must define whether you are dating exlusively or non exlusively. Are you just dating? Are you already in the boyfriend and girlfriend stage? Determining your relationship can be quite awkward and difficult at first but it is important to know where you stand.
Always keep your communication lines open. Talk over the phone everyday, send email to each other or send text messages. Long distance relationships need more nourishing than the ordinary relationships in order to maintain and establish emotional connection.
You do not have to have deep conversations all the time. The important thing is that you do not let one day to pass without reassuring each other that you care. With the internet, it is much easier to chat with your loved one and see them through webcams.
Being far from each other should not restrict you from doing things together. Even if you are oceans apart, you can still enjoy each other’s company. You can talk over the phone while watching your favorite movie at the same time. Both of you can listen to music while chatting.
And remember, trust your partner, never have doubts in your heart.
However, if you really want to make a relationship work, it does not matter whether you are living on both ends of the earth.
If you are in a long distance relationship, it is necessary to make extra effort. You must set clear parameters in your relationship including knowing the level of your commitment.
You must define whether you are dating exlusively or non exlusively. Are you just dating? Are you already in the boyfriend and girlfriend stage? Determining your relationship can be quite awkward and difficult at first but it is important to know where you stand.
Always keep your communication lines open. Talk over the phone everyday, send email to each other or send text messages. Long distance relationships need more nourishing than the ordinary relationships in order to maintain and establish emotional connection.
You do not have to have deep conversations all the time. The important thing is that you do not let one day to pass without reassuring each other that you care. With the internet, it is much easier to chat with your loved one and see them through webcams.
Being far from each other should not restrict you from doing things together. Even if you are oceans apart, you can still enjoy each other’s company. You can talk over the phone while watching your favorite movie at the same time. Both of you can listen to music while chatting.
And remember, trust your partner, never have doubts in your heart.
How to Get Your Ex Girlfriend Back
Our ex girlfriend normally seems the best girl we ever had, If you really want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, there are a number of ways that you can follow to have more success than if you just wing it and hope for the best. Breakups happen, but they do not necessarily have to be forever. Here are ways that will allow you to subtlety let your ex girlfriend know that you're still interested in being a fixture in her life, so that you can potentially rekindle things in the right away.
If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, start by reaching out and touching her. Playing too hard to get is not the best way to approach this, though communication should be scaled back. Reach out to her and let her know subtlety that you are still interested in being a part of her life. Drop an e-mail to keep in touch. If you do not find casual, easy going methods of communication with your ex, you will never be able to get her back. Staying in touch is absolutely vital, but keeps it to casual messages like "Hey, what's up?" rather than overwhelming her inbox with love poetry.
If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, stay away from other girls. Sure, she may be understanding enough to let it slide if you begin to peruse other "prospects", but if you want to get your girlfriend back, stay away from other ladies, please.
Remember the important things. Part of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back means treating your girl like a princess. One of the easiest ways to do this is to show her that you care by remembering the most important things you did together and dates in her life. Send her a card on her birthday, and let her know you're thinking about her in a harmless and positive way. This will make are start seeing you in another way.
Call and text, but use discretion when reaching out to her. You should not be afraid to send your ex girlfriend a text message, or drop her a line here and there. Uncertainty is something that should be avoided in life and love, so call her up and let her know what's going on so that she knows where you are and what you're doing, and doesn't have to imagine that you're out having fun without her, or with another woman. Let her know you care, and that you still think about her. If she knows she's still in your thoughts so frequently, it will contribute heavily to how quickly she will want to rekindle things with you.
These are just the beginning ways in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life, Mary, due to distance between us, am writing an article on why distance relationship fails.
If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, start by reaching out and touching her. Playing too hard to get is not the best way to approach this, though communication should be scaled back. Reach out to her and let her know subtlety that you are still interested in being a part of her life. Drop an e-mail to keep in touch. If you do not find casual, easy going methods of communication with your ex, you will never be able to get her back. Staying in touch is absolutely vital, but keeps it to casual messages like "Hey, what's up?" rather than overwhelming her inbox with love poetry.
If you want to learn how to get your ex girlfriend back, stay away from other girls. Sure, she may be understanding enough to let it slide if you begin to peruse other "prospects", but if you want to get your girlfriend back, stay away from other ladies, please.
Remember the important things. Part of learning how to get your ex girlfriend back means treating your girl like a princess. One of the easiest ways to do this is to show her that you care by remembering the most important things you did together and dates in her life. Send her a card on her birthday, and let her know you're thinking about her in a harmless and positive way. This will make are start seeing you in another way.
Call and text, but use discretion when reaching out to her. You should not be afraid to send your ex girlfriend a text message, or drop her a line here and there. Uncertainty is something that should be avoided in life and love, so call her up and let her know what's going on so that she knows where you are and what you're doing, and doesn't have to imagine that you're out having fun without her, or with another woman. Let her know you care, and that you still think about her. If she knows she's still in your thoughts so frequently, it will contribute heavily to how quickly she will want to rekindle things with you.
These are just the beginning ways in winning your Ex back. They are the initial steps I followed when I lost the love of my life, Mary, due to distance between us, am writing an article on why distance relationship fails.
ASKING A GIRL OUT FOR A DATE
Asking a girl out on a date can be anxiety provoking. And even though girls are taking the initiative more often than they used to, it is still widely expected that the guy will do the asking, especially for a first date. So guys, if you want to increase your chances of her saying "yes," take a few moments to learn how to ask a girl out before you make your move.
Prepare yourself. Know what you are asking her to do and when, and have a couple of backup options. Expect a yes, but prepare yourself for a no. Approach the girl you like, be straightforward, nice and treat her with respect. Approach her confidently with a smile and your head held up. Engage her in friendly conversation and get to know her a little first.
Tell her your name, compliment her and ask her name. Ask her specific questions. Find out what her interests are and expand on any you or something you both like and share with her. Gauge her interest by using verbal and nonverbal queues. If she is averting her eyes or looking for her friends while not responding well to questions, cut your losses and walk away. However if she is actively engaged in the conversation, ease into your invitation.
After talking for a few minutes, ask something like, “I was thinking of going (somewhere) next weekend, would you like to come along?” Be specific in your activity and be ready with an alternative activity and date if she says “Some other time, maybe.”
Set the date and get her contact information (phone numbers, email, facebook id cos every girl now has one). Follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as if you will pick her up or meet her there.
Tips and Tricks
• The best way to ask a girl out is in person. If that is not possible due to lack of opportunity or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone. Practice what you will say beforehand if you aren’t confident.
• Make sure you are well groomed and dressed nicely. Don’t overdo it, and make sure to suit your own style. And of course check your breath beforehand!
• If the girl says no, don’t take it personally. Continue the conversation for a little longer, say it was nice talking to her and walk away. The fact that you took her rejection well may even pique her interest. If she isn’t a stranger make more of an effort to get to know her. She may grow to like you and you may get another opportunity to ask her out.
• If she said she was busy to your first offer and you get a similar response to your second date option accept it as a rejection and move on. She is probably trying to be nice.
• Think of subjects to discuss on the date in advance. Good ideas include stories about you, things you want to know about her, family and common interests.
• Do not ask a girl out over email or by instant message.
• Do not use a cheesy pickup line!
• Don’t worry about small breaks in conversation as that’s normal. But if it lasts an excessive amount of time, or she is giving you nonverbal queues that she wants out of the conversation, then politely end it.
Prepare yourself. Know what you are asking her to do and when, and have a couple of backup options. Expect a yes, but prepare yourself for a no. Approach the girl you like, be straightforward, nice and treat her with respect. Approach her confidently with a smile and your head held up. Engage her in friendly conversation and get to know her a little first.
Tell her your name, compliment her and ask her name. Ask her specific questions. Find out what her interests are and expand on any you or something you both like and share with her. Gauge her interest by using verbal and nonverbal queues. If she is averting her eyes or looking for her friends while not responding well to questions, cut your losses and walk away. However if she is actively engaged in the conversation, ease into your invitation.
After talking for a few minutes, ask something like, “I was thinking of going (somewhere) next weekend, would you like to come along?” Be specific in your activity and be ready with an alternative activity and date if she says “Some other time, maybe.”
Set the date and get her contact information (phone numbers, email, facebook id cos every girl now has one). Follow up with her before the date to verify time and details such as if you will pick her up or meet her there.
Tips and Tricks
• The best way to ask a girl out is in person. If that is not possible due to lack of opportunity or because you aren't confident enough, your best alternative would be over the phone. Practice what you will say beforehand if you aren’t confident.
• Make sure you are well groomed and dressed nicely. Don’t overdo it, and make sure to suit your own style. And of course check your breath beforehand!
• If the girl says no, don’t take it personally. Continue the conversation for a little longer, say it was nice talking to her and walk away. The fact that you took her rejection well may even pique her interest. If she isn’t a stranger make more of an effort to get to know her. She may grow to like you and you may get another opportunity to ask her out.
• If she said she was busy to your first offer and you get a similar response to your second date option accept it as a rejection and move on. She is probably trying to be nice.
• Think of subjects to discuss on the date in advance. Good ideas include stories about you, things you want to know about her, family and common interests.
• Do not ask a girl out over email or by instant message.
• Do not use a cheesy pickup line!
• Don’t worry about small breaks in conversation as that’s normal. But if it lasts an excessive amount of time, or she is giving you nonverbal queues that she wants out of the conversation, then politely end it.
What is abuse in a relationship
Lots of ladies in Nigeria might be confused about whether what's happening to them is abuse. This info helps you understand the different kinds of abuse that takes place in Nigeria and the world.
Research shows that in relationships, males are most likely to be the abusers, and females are most likely to be the victims. Females can also be abusive, in lesbian and in straight relationships as the case may be.
Emotional Abuse
This is when your boyfriend or girlfriend puts you down, ignores you or calls you names. It may be about what you are wearing, or how you're acting. They may want you to stop spending time with your friends and question you on every detail of what you've done without them. They may use jealousy or anger to intimidate you or to control your behavior, or might deliberately humiliate you in front of others.
They might try to manipulate you and make you feel wrong, inadequate or like you're crazy. Another form of emotional abuse is if they threaten to hurt themselves or other people if you break up with them. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse.
Physical Abuse
This involves physical acts such as hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking, pulling your hair or choking you, or threatening to harm you in any way. It could involve using a weapon or an object to threaten or hurt you, smashing things or threatening to throw you out of the house and back to your parents. Hurting someone physically or threatening to hurt them is a criminal offense if the victim reports to the authorities.
Sexual Abuse
This involves pressuring or forcing you to do sexual things that you don't want to do. Even if they have not physically forced you to have sex with them, if they tried to manipulate you or coerce you into having sex when you didn't want to (like if they say 'you'd do it if you really loved me' or 'you're frigid'), this is still sexual abuse. It is also sexual assault if you have been drinking or taking drugs or if you were asleep or unconscious and you were not aware of what was happening. Rape and other forms of sexual assault are criminal offence.
What's Love got to do with it?
It can be hard to see whether your boyfriend / girlfriend's behaviour is actually abusive, or it can be hard to find a word for it. They might try to convince you that their jealous and possessive behaviour is because they love you. But this kind of treatment isn't love; it's control.
Are you being abused?
Research shows that in relationships, males are most likely to be the abusers, and females are most likely to be the victims. Females can also be abusive, in lesbian and in straight relationships as the case may be.
Emotional Abuse
This is when your boyfriend or girlfriend puts you down, ignores you or calls you names. It may be about what you are wearing, or how you're acting. They may want you to stop spending time with your friends and question you on every detail of what you've done without them. They may use jealousy or anger to intimidate you or to control your behavior, or might deliberately humiliate you in front of others.
They might try to manipulate you and make you feel wrong, inadequate or like you're crazy. Another form of emotional abuse is if they threaten to hurt themselves or other people if you break up with them. Emotional abuse can be just as damaging as physical abuse.
Physical Abuse
This involves physical acts such as hitting, slapping, pushing, kicking, pulling your hair or choking you, or threatening to harm you in any way. It could involve using a weapon or an object to threaten or hurt you, smashing things or threatening to throw you out of the house and back to your parents. Hurting someone physically or threatening to hurt them is a criminal offense if the victim reports to the authorities.
Sexual Abuse
This involves pressuring or forcing you to do sexual things that you don't want to do. Even if they have not physically forced you to have sex with them, if they tried to manipulate you or coerce you into having sex when you didn't want to (like if they say 'you'd do it if you really loved me' or 'you're frigid'), this is still sexual abuse. It is also sexual assault if you have been drinking or taking drugs or if you were asleep or unconscious and you were not aware of what was happening. Rape and other forms of sexual assault are criminal offence.
What's Love got to do with it?
It can be hard to see whether your boyfriend / girlfriend's behaviour is actually abusive, or it can be hard to find a word for it. They might try to convince you that their jealous and possessive behaviour is because they love you. But this kind of treatment isn't love; it's control.
Are you being abused?
Being In Love
Being in love is supposed to feel great. But sometimes it just feels confusing.
What can you do if you are being hurt, controlled or treated badly in a relationship? I know lots of us will say pray over it or quit the relationship. What of if all your relationships keep going round the same theme like the last one, will you stop dating any one?
What can you do if you are being hurt, controlled or treated badly in a relationship? I know lots of us will say pray over it or quit the relationship. What of if all your relationships keep going round the same theme like the last one, will you stop dating any one?
Do You Need Time Table For Sex With Your Girl
Has the saying goes or what people believe is that sex with a partner makes a relationship stronger. Recently girls have started hoarding sex from there guys because of God's knows why . A guy i met recently at a suya spot told me that he had not had sex for close to 4 months because is girl friend puts him on a time table. "my girl friend only gives me sex when she is happy or rather when she feels like doing it, i might be aas stiff as a rock and she knows but will deny me. I recently find out why, she complains that am not commited enough to her and that giving me sex will make her look cheap"
i say thats all bull shit, giving your guy something will make him start looking at you seriously, not giving a guy some especialy when he is in the mood can lead to him looking outside for what you are not giving. This are just my opinion, will like to hear more on this issue, is you girl or guy keeping you on a ration
i say thats all bull shit, giving your guy something will make him start looking at you seriously, not giving a guy some especialy when he is in the mood can lead to him looking outside for what you are not giving. This are just my opinion, will like to hear more on this issue, is you girl or guy keeping you on a ration
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